Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Love in the times of Cholera

Sometimes I feel that we are just about always playing games... Looking for new playthings... And when we find those new playthings we call them friends... The playthings we like better, we call good friends... But sooner or later we get bored of them, and then the relationship comes to a bog that is difficult to get away from... And once in a lifetime, if we find a plaything we do not get bored of too easily, we call it love... Might sound offensive to most people, but then this is what I think sometimes. Sometimes is the operative word. I never say this is the truth, the ultimate truth. neither do I say I believe in it. But sometimes I do think this way. Just give it a thought. Maybe someone else could give me a fresh perspective....

17 comments:

Beauty and the BEast said...

I think the problem is when you treat people like things. Like they are not people anymore with feelings of their own...

Treat them like people and maybe you wont get bored of them..

Just a thought..

marvin the paranoid android said...

@ beauty
nice thought... but when i used the word we, i was not necessarily talking of myself... anyways it is just temporary thing... sometimes i feel the way i have described, and at those times i guess i can use your advice...

me in love said...

you know, i agree with you. i mean, some poeple do think like that. even i think like that - when i need to look at the braoder picture and get some perspective in life you cant do that if you go in too deep into someone else's feelings.

and i wont use the word bored - its more like..we all change - they, us...no more compatible.

marvin the paranoid android said...

@ me in love
i guess you are just avoiding being blunt when you shy away from using the word bored. anyways nice to find someone who thinks like me..

Khamakha said...

sumtimes i reely wonder y we part ways wid ppl we thot we wud neva part ways wid..the truth is we do tht quite often. I truely believe any relationship needs nourishment..needs efforts or..it dies...n we name it boredom having surrendered to the laziness!

n prbly when we can associate passion with the so called plaything it moulds into love.

random thots!!

-sonali

Beauty and the BEast said...

Interesting comments! It definitely provokes a lot of thought!

And turning away from the point.. Garcias is really a brilliant author!! And the book - love in the times of Cholera..another fav!!

Ricky said...

I think we all look for some kind of companionship rather than playthings :-)

marvin the paranoid android said...

@ sonali
i believe you think it is because of lethargy we let relationships die away... i beg to disagree... i think it is our subconscious decision that a relationship is not important enough that leads to its ultimate end...

marvin the paranoid android said...

@ beauty..
i am yet to read the book... though i have gheard that both the book and the author are quite okay...

marvin the paranoid android said...

@ ricky...
i guess you misunderstood me... never mind...

Khamakha said...

subconscious decision that a relationship is not important enough that leads to its ultimate end..hmm..
come to think of it, it sometimes is lethargy tht lets the subconscious take that decision even when a relationship is considered imp enuf..
sometimes u just ve to let go....
not cuz u r bored..

Runa said...

I agree...I think thats the only way to explain what keeps happenin all the time...poor ol me cudnt find why how when...
now I know! :P

marvin the paranoid android said...

@ sonali..
i guess the purpose is served if i could make you think my way...

@ runa...
i always said that i am the man who knows!!!

Crimson Feet said...

relationships should be viewed in the context of limited time-spans...
"never" and "forever" are the most senseless timespans...

one may spend a lifetime with a person in just 1 week... and then one may go on to live more lives, with many more human beings, across varying levels of timespans and involvement!..

that way, i feel, we can live so much more than "just one life"... and yet not be caught in a redundant guilty vicious circle of "oh i couldn't make it last forever"
it doesn't happen... its probably not supposed to happen. and this realisation also helps to live it fully while it lasts!

a little screwed up?.. may be.. but works for me.

marvin the paranoid android said...

@ crimson feet
interesting perspective... though i could not get myself round to accepting it...

me in love said...

@crimson feet...
commitment problem, maybe?

Crimson Feet said...

@ me in love

hmmm... no. not commitment problem. probably 'face-to-face with reality' problem. i would be totally committed for that period while the relationship is beautiful and positive. but when it starts to go sour, like mostly it does... i'd rather say a beautiful good bye and move on. irrespective of the length of time for which it lasted...

i suggest don't pay attention to what i am saying in this context.. i am just too little cynical about "forever love" i guess!